Amor y Respeto - Cuaderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Amor y Respeto
Cuarderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL
Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Spanish DVD Workbook
This is the companion workbook to the Spanish Love and Respect DVDs, providing all the Scriptures Dr. Eggerichs uses, as well as fill-in-the-blanks for interactive participation. Please order one per person.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
You must “ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves.”
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
His love blesses regardless of her respect; her respect blesses regardless of his love.
If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker--taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict--his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates.
Optimism or pessimism? It is always a choice, no matter what your natural temperament.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
Whether visiting a prison, feeding the hungry, giving the thirsty a drink or speaking a word of love or respect, everything is to be done to and for Christ.
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
Husbands, even Jesus Himself was asked by a woman, “Do you not care?” (Luke 10:40) When your wife accuses you of not caring, decode her deeper meaning.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
It’s true that women have intuition and that men should listen to them. It’s also true that women have blind spots and need the insight of their husbands.
We send each other messages in “code” based on gender, even though we don’t intend to. What I say is not what you hear, and what you think you heard is not what I meant at all.
Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration or anger, but you always have a choice. A wife can choose to be disrespectful or respectful. A husband can choose to be unloving or loving.
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
Christian maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger.
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
I have concluded that those of us in the church who believe we have the Truth are not using the whole truth. A crucial part of God’s Word has been completely ignored, or perhaps simply gone unnoticed, when it has been there right under our noses the whole time! Many Christian spouses know Ephesians 5:33 and can at least paraphrase it. The Apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives as much as they love themselves, and wives are to respect their husbands. But is anyone really listening? Perhaps the first step to better communication between husband and wife is to hear what God’s Word clearly says. --Emerson
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
When a wife feels unloved, it can be such a shock to her heart that she is oblivious to her disrespectful reactions toward her husband, though any man watching could see it plainly.
So I encourage every husband and wife to commit to the Jesus Way of Talking. Instead of allowing the stress of the situation to control you, you can say to yourself, “Because I love the Lord and I know that He rewards every good word, I am going to be truthful even if my spouse is not. I will also be uplifting, forgiving, thankful and scriptural in my speech because my ultimate goal is to please the Lord. Whatever my spouse’s weaknesses or bad habits might be, I will not let them cause me to sin with my lips.”
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.
It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
Mutual understanding, not communication, is the key to a healthy marriage relationship.
Share what God is saying to your heart, not what you think He needs to say to your mate.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
No matter what your struggle- criticism, constant conflict, sex, money, parenting, harsh words- learning to communicate the Love and Respect way can help you make crucial changes and build the kind of relationship that God blesses.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
We are either going to give in the darkness or we are going to give into the darkness.
We have different vulnerabilities. We can pass judgment on one another all day long or we can say God made us different and that’s ok.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you.
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
Getting married reveals, usually sooner than later, an incontestable fact: your spouse cannot possibly meet all your needs and desires
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
God is not pink. God is not blue. God is purple. When two become one, they have the potential of displaying God’s attributes and character.