Love and Respect Coaster (6) Set
A set of six premium leather coasters, each stamped with the Love & Respect logo. A perfect gift or an item to use in your Love and Respect small group. Or consider purchasing with our Love & Respect mug set. Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Love and Respect Coasters
Set of 6
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
What is it Made Of?
The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
We send each other messages in “code” based on gender, even though we don’t intend to. What I say is not what you hear, and what you think you heard is not what I meant at all.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
Can you begin to trust that God feels love for you even when you don’t feel that love?
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
Husbands, even Jesus Himself was asked by a woman, “Do you not care?” (Luke 10:40) When your wife accuses you of not caring, decode her deeper meaning.
A major step toward a happy marriage is accepting differences and working them out with love and respect.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
There is a plan to parent God’s way, even when our children may seek to go their own way at time. The secret is to follow this plan regardless. When you do, I believe you succeed in His eyes.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
We are either going to give in the darkness or we are going to give into the darkness.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
Always remember that Pink and Blue have different wiring, different preferences. Assume your spouse has goodwill toward you, no matter what. Both of you can be right, while being different.
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
When Jesus said “turn the other cheek,” He wasn’t saying to be passive wimps. He was teaching that physically people can control you but if you turn and give the other cheek, suddenly you’re in control and you’re making the choices.
No one can really practice Love and Respect unless he or she does it as unto Jesus Christ.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
Every marriage includes trouble some of the time. Do not let the 20% leaven all the rest.
Most marriages will succeed when obeying the command to Love and Respect.
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
I have concluded that those of us in the church who believe we have the Truth are not using the whole truth. A crucial part of God’s Word has been completely ignored, or perhaps simply gone unnoticed, when it has been there right under our noses the whole time! Many Christian spouses know Ephesians 5:33 and can at least paraphrase it. The Apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives as much as they love themselves, and wives are to respect their husbands. But is anyone really listening? Perhaps the first step to better communication between husband and wife is to hear what God’s Word clearly says. --Emerson
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
“With eyes of faith, envision Jesus standing just beyond the shoulder of your spouse and listening to every word you speak in every conversation, pleasant or tense. When you speak lovingly or respectfully to your spouse, you are speaking to Christ. Your spouse just happens to be there too.” This truth has sanctified the lips of many. Instead of giving their spouse a verbal whipping or choking on the idea of saying anything positive, now some spouses are motivated to speak words of unconditional love or respect.
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
Getting married reveals, usually sooner than later, an incontestable fact: your spouse cannot possibly meet all your needs and desires
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
When you possess a forgiving spirit, words of Love and Respect will flow authentically from your lips- and realize that the Lord Himself is listening to you at moments like these. He knows you are not powerless, but actually full of power that He has granted you.
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker--taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict--his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.