Love and Respect Husband + Logo Mug
Are you a husband who just can’t reflect without your coffee but needs a new mug? This one is marked for you! Wives…this is a great respectful gift for your husband. They are finally here, mugs from Love and Respect! Whether you are engaging a Love and Respect product, like the 52 week devotional, and need your coffee to reflect; or you are a wife looking for a gift for your husband. Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, weddings, or just because, this mug will look great both in the cupboard and in his hand.
Love & Respect Coffee Cup
The Husband Mug
Timeless Ceramic Mugs
Experience a hint of nostalgia with our traditional ceramic custom diner mugs, reminiscent of simpler times. These 11 oz. ceramic mugs boast a sturdy build, glossy exterior, slight top and bottom flare, and a thick curved grip for easy handling. They make a perfect addition to your mug collection, adding a touch of charm to your daily coffee or tea enjoyment. Let these timeless mugs transport you to cherished memories as you sip your favorite beverages in comfort and style.
Spark Conversations on Marriage, Family, and Faith!
Immerse yourself in captivating conversations about marriage, family, and faith as you sip from our engaging ceramic diner mugs. These mugs are not just ordinary drinkware; they serve as excellent conversation starters among neighbors and friends. Elevate your small group experience by adding these fun and interactive items to the mix. Let the mugs ignite engaging discussions and create lasting memories as you bond over shared experiences and heartfelt conversations.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
The Lord made women (Pink) and men (Blue) with differences, and He expects us to recognize and deal with those differences in a loving and respectful way.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
I had often asked God to compensate for my mistakes, but in return had I thought He would give me perfect children?
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Do not live by the standards of Hollywood; trust what God says in His Holy Word.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
“Respect is a man’s deepest value. I have had numerous men tell me, ‘I would rather live with a wife who respected me but did not love me than live with a wife who loved me but did not respect me.’ These men are not saying that they are indifferent to love. They know they need love, but they need to feel respected even more than they need to feel loved.“
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
No one can really practice Love and Respect unless he or she does it as unto Jesus Christ.
Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.
[Women], your self-love cannot be derived from your husband’s love. It can affect it, but it does not determine it.
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
Getting married reveals, usually sooner than later, an incontestable fact: your spouse cannot possibly meet all your needs and desires
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
God rewards your obedience to love and respect, even if your spouse does not respond!
The heart of my communication means the other person cannot get my heart to be unkind, unloving, or disrespectful. Instead, I have made a decision about who I will be independent of the other person. I won’t blame my unkindness on someone else.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
At the very bottom of things, in every case and in every conversation, you can do your marriage a huge favor by assuming she is seeking to feel loved or he is seeking to feel respected and give your spouse some grace!
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
Your marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for Jesus Christ. God is using your spouse to bring you an eternal reward.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
Optimism or pessimism? It is always a choice, no matter what your natural temperament.
Words of love from a husband are like good medicine that brings life to the marriage.
As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
Mutual understanding, not communication, is the key to a healthy marriage relationship.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
Though the end can be worthy (to be loved and respected), when each uses unholy means (unloving and disrespectful words and actions), it will not achieve those ends. We must treat others as we expect them to treat us. To deny this makes us arrogant or fools, or both.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
His love blesses regardless of her respect; her respect blesses regardless of his love.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
As a wife, if you can start to understand how important your husband’s work is to him, you will take a giant step toward communicating respect and honor, two things that he values even more than your love.
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
It’s true that women have intuition and that men should listen to them. It’s also true that women have blind spots and need the insight of their husbands.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
Women give a report to build rapport. Men bond through shoulder-to-shoulder activities without talking.
No matter what your struggle- criticism, constant conflict, sex, money, parenting, harsh words- learning to communicate the Love and Respect way can help you make crucial changes and build the kind of relationship that God blesses.
We send each other messages in “code” based on gender, even though we don’t intend to. What I say is not what you hear, and what you think you heard is not what I meant at all.
When sorting out how to slow down the Crazy Cycle, it helps to remember that men are commanded to love because they don’t love naturally, and on the other side, women are commanded to respect because they don’t respect naturally.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.